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Lamenting: Healing our Disappointments. (Part 1)

January 17, 2021 Speaker: Damian Mericka Series: Throne Room Living

Topic: Lamenting: Healing our Disappointments. (Part 1)

 Sermon Title: Lamenting: Healing our Disappointments. (Part 1)

Sermon Series: Throne Room Living

Text: Supporting Scripture   

Speaker: Pastor Damian Mericka

Introduction:  Higher Life Living in His Throne Room

As we begin a new year, the Spirit has been pressing me to move forward with this series on the Higher Life.  The greatest challenge we face in the world today is not our personal problems (health / finances / relationships), politics, rumors of war, Covid-19, or even the devil.  The problem the church faces today is that we have lost sight on were we are seated.  We are looking at the world, ministry, and Jesus from the wrong perspective.  The result is a very dormant church struggling on life support.

This is a series to recalibrate our understanding of what it means to be a part of the Kingdom of God.  What it means to be seated with Christ in Heavenly Places.  What it means to be filled, gifted, anointed, and sealed in the Spirit.  My prayer is that we experience such revival that would rival the greatest outpourings of the Spirit yet in human history!  This may be bold- but I cannot be in the Throne Room of Jesus Christ and be anything less than bold!

“…and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus…” -Paul, Ephesians 2:6

“After this I looked, and behold, a door standing open in heaven! And the first voice, which I had heard speaking to me like a trumpet, said, ‘Come up here, and I will show you what must take place after this. At once I was in the Spirit, and behold, a throne stood in heaven, with one seated on the throne.” -John, Revelation 4:1-2

“We shouldn’t be under our circumstances, or looking around at our circumstances, but looking down on them, for we are, indeed, seated in heavenly places- above our circumstances.” -Dr Paul L. King, “Come Up Higher”

This is not a self-help series.  This is not your best life now.  This is not prosperity gospel, or name-it-and-claim-it silliness.  This is seeking to understand through the Spirit what God has revealed to us in His Word, for His Glory alone!  It is recognizing and acknowledging that our lives are to be given to Him as a living sacrifice; for He alone is worthy to be lifted on high! Jesus alone is King of Kings, and Lord of Lords- it is He who is seated at the right hand, heir to the Throne of David!

Going Deeper: 1) If you were asked today how life was going, what would be your response?  Would your answer show that your gaze is from your circumstances up toward God or from God down toward your circumstances?  Why is this important for you personally as well as the church as a whole? How does this impact our ministry strength? (Compare your answers this week to last week. What changed?)


  1. From Joy to Sorrow (2 Samuel 1:1-4; 11-13)

Having experienced the victory against the Amalekites, David and his 600 return to Ziklag with all that had been lost.  The abundance was shared with his greater family, the Tribe of Judah.  This was a time of great victory- physical and spiritual for David.  And then sad news arrives.

Kingdom Key: Lamenting the Cost of Sin

“Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.” -James 4:9

Vv. 1-4. Israel bore the defeat as a Nation- the defeat that lived in the heart of their king, Saul. While David experienced the victory God promises to those who put their faith in Him, Saul experiences the cost of pulling our hand out and refusing to trust and obey God.

Vv. 11-13. Upon hearing this, David’s heart bursts in tears and in suite his men join him in this moment of sorrow. David was not thinking about his throne, he wasn’t thinking about his future, he wasn’t looking at this as an answer to the need of his circumstances- he was genuinely lamenting the role and cost sin had in both Saul (role) and Jonathan’s (cost) life.

Note: Luke 18:9-14. Throne Room / Higher Life living requires consistent humility.  While we are rejoicing and celebrating, another may be lamenting or repenting.  Let us continually lament the cost sin brings to us and mourn when God does not answer the way we may hope or believe. If we do not mourn or face our disappointments, they can become bigger issues between God and us.

Going Deeper: 2) What Kingdom Key was shared in this section? Why is lamenting the presence and cost of sin in our own lives and the lives of others important? What value can it bring to our relationship with God and each other? Why did David lament? If you experienced what he did from Saul, would your heart look like his did at the news of Saul’s death? Where are you personally in the heart check of Luke 18:9-14?

  1. Anointing: Potential not Guarantee. (1 Samuel)

God does not give us anointing, or gifting, in its mature state.  He gives this to us in its infant state.  It is the potential of what we can be in Him, not the guarantee of it.  Faith- trusting and obeying- factor into what we are able to experience of God in this life. Note the highlights / steps from Saul’s life: GOOD! -> WARNING -> DANGER!

Kingdom Key: Faith Affects Maturity

“And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.”  -Hebrews 11:6

  • Humble 10:1; 22-27. Saul is anointed to be King privately by Samuel in the presence of God alone. When the time came for all of Israel to know, he hid himself until God made him known.  Before Saul was presented the expectation; how he would mature in his anointing as king.
  • Merciful 11:12-15; 12:9-25. Saul shows mercy to his hecklers because he and Israel as a Nation received mercy from God.
  • Disobedient 13:8-14. Impatient with God, Saul disobeys God’s Word () and does not repent.
  • Rash and Internal Conflict 14:37-46; 52. God is still dealing with Saul, but Saul is avoiding the issue and now this sin between God and him has affected his son and the people; they are no longer focused on God’s leading. Even though the outward looked good (v.52) the inward was not.
  • Tested 15:1-3;19-35. God allowed a final test for Saul to bring out what was within him for all (including himself and Samuel) to see. Saul lamented the cost of sin, not the sin itself.  He refused to repent (confession without repentance is empty) and begins to self-destruct. God wanted Samuel to see what He sees in the heart, and in this Samuel tasted of the mourning from God’s heart toward the cost of sin in those He created and loves.
  • Tormented 16:14-23. Saul tries to self-medicate with music (the fruit of another’s relationship with God).
  • Jealous 18:8-16; 20:30-34. Seeing what David’s faith is accomplishing brings out bitterness and hate, leading Saul to seek David’s death. From this point forward Saul murders anyone affiliated with David. It was a good time to leave town if you were of the Tribe of Judah!
  • Desperate 28:1-25. Unable to hear from God in His Word (Law / Writings), Saul was not hearing from God through any venue. The heart that embraces sin has no room for God. In his plight, he pursues any voice in the spiritual realm for guidance.
  • Defeated 31:1-7. There is no victory for anyone outside of God. No matter what we put our faith in, outside of God it cannot stand nor save us.

Going Deeper: 3) What Kingdom Key was shared in this section? Walk through each of the steps- what is the meaning behind the color coding? Are there parts of your life or the life of others in the yellow or red areas? At any point are we beyond the Grace and Mercy of God? What is the difference between confessing and repenting from sin? Why is it important to keep ourselves in check with God’s Word primarily over visions, dreams, etc? While God DOES speak through such in His Spirit, there are other spirits out there and the state of our relationship with God plays a significant part on which we are hearing!

III.  Lamenting: Beginning the Journey Toward Healing

What do we do with this?  How do we process our disappointment with ourselves, with each other, and ultimately with God?

What happens when God is not answering us?

Check out -> James 4:1-12. Examine the fruit coming from our lives.  BE IN THE WORD.

We need to be humble! (v.6).  Vv.7-10 show us the way to arrive and stay there!   Vv. 11-12 bring us back to Jesus’ words in Luke 18:9-14.

Going Deeper: 4) This week, write down disappointments you may have with God- and be honest, God already knows!  Then, ask the Spirit to walk you through the experience(s) with the James 4:7-10 passage as a guide.  Are there parts of the expectation you had that were more about you than God? Is there sin to confess & repent of?  Is there forgiveness to extend or to receive? Ask God to reveal your heart to you; and seek His strength to lament your disappointments and move forward with your hand in His- He loves you! Faith in God will always lead toward maturity in Him and His anointing over your life!